Developing Self Acceptance
What if you could adopt a method of looking at yourself and others in a holistic way, incorporating emotions, values, challenges, strengths and more?
Most people who’ve looked at topics like happiness and flourishing have discovered that the key to wellbeing is the way that we look at ourselves. At the core of wellbeing lies the relationship that people have with themselves; in other words, it’s all about how we relate to our self. Sadly, many of us still look at ourselves from a somewhat limited perspective. For a lot of people, the lens through which they view themselves is characterised by limitations and weaknesses; the sort of outlook that produces phrases like “I have to” and “I should” and “I ought to” …which suggests that there are fixed conditions for being good enough and that any flaws have to be corrected.
But if you decide to step out of the battle to win self esteem, then what you’re left with is self acceptance
Self acceptance means being OK with who you are, treating yourself kindly and accepting that you’re a human being and therefore imperfect. Self acceptance means refusing to buy into the judgments your mind makes about you, whether they’re good judgments or bad ones. Imagining what it could be like if instead of judging yourself, you recognise your strengths and weaknesses, and you do what you can to be the person you want to be.
“One of the most challenging parts of the work I do at Incendo is being confronted with so many amazing human beings who fail to see their own strengths, beauty and potential – hence offering this workshop, Developing Self Acceptance, to the public.”
Justin Standfield, founder and MD of Incendo
What will I learn on the Developing Self Acceptance workshop?
By taking part in this workshop, you will be able to:
identify symptoms and consequences of conditional self-worth;
learn about ways to develop a more compassionate and accepting stance towards yourself;
learn why you should not strive for self-esteem;
adopt proven, science-based practices that increase mental wellbeing in a durable way;
gain insight into different types of motivation for self-improvement;
apply hands-on tools and exercises for increasing self acceptance;
discover how some ‘personal improvement’ interventions can reduce rather than enhance self-acceptance;
create a ready-to-go, structured action plan for putting theory into practice straight away.
During the workshop, you’ll have the opportunity to explore the following topics:
Introduction to positive psychology
The sailboat metaphor
The status of your sailboat
Exploring domains of self-worth
How would you treat a friend?
Putting values into action
The tools, approaches and techniques covered in this one-day workshop offer you a different, more holistic lens through which to look at yourself. A central component of the workshop is the ‘sailboat’ model developed by Dr Hugo Alberts; we use his metaphor of a sailboat to address the full spectrum of human functioning, in that it highlights both the factors that reduce our wellbeing as well as those that allow us to flourish and grow. Learning how to see ourselves through the lens of the sailboat metaphor instantly broadens our view and shifts our attention away from “What’s wrong with me?” to the resources in ourselves and in our environment.
Why is self acceptance so important?
Firstly, there’s a lot of research out there that shows us that self acceptance is the cornerstone of psychological wellbeing. Studies have also found links between low self acceptance and depression and anxiety, negative body image, and the onset and maintenance of eating disorders and obesity.
Secondly, research tells us that while self acceptance is our most powerful wellbeing habit, it’s the habit that we practise the least. According to Action for Happiness (2014), practising self acceptance can make the biggest difference to people’s subjective well-being.
That’s why self acceptance is so important and we’re confident that this workshop will provide you with everything you need to support your journey toward greater self acceptance. More than anything, we hope that our Developing Self Acceptance workshop will help you and the people around you to realise that we’re all captains of our own boat, and that we’re equipped with everything necessary for making our journey worth travelling.
Is this workshop right for me?
This workshop is aimed at the general public and has been designed to offer anyone a comprehensive, yet easy to understand framework to integrate the benefits of positive psychology into their life. We achieve this by offering a structured, science-based training workshop and supporting resources that will enable you to understand the various processes that underpin our desire for greater self acceptance.
A secondary benefit of this workshop is that some participants (e.g. people working as professional coaches) may wish to use the tools with their clients to enhance their level of wellbeing.
What else do I need to know about The Science of Self Acceptance?
Our next workshop is running on 9th May 2019 in the light and spacious ‘Court’ conference space at New Place Hotel in Hampshire. If you’d like to join us, the investment from you is just £97 per person and includes:
One place on the Developing Self Acceptance workshop
Workshop folder containing all handouts, exercises and your own personal workbook
Three course lunch
Refreshments and snacks throughout the day.
How do I reserve my place?
Simply click on the Reserve My Place button below to reserve your place on the Developing Self Acceptance workshop.
We look forward to seeing you there!